I love you.
I want you.
You are special to me.
I see you and I hear you.
It’s not what you do but who you are that I love.
I love you and I give you permission to be different from me.
I’ll take care of you.
I’ll be there for you, I will be there even when you die.
You don’t have to be alone anymore.
You can trust me.
You can trust your inner voice.
Sometimes I will tell you “no” and that’s because I love you.
You don’t have to be afraid anymore.
My love will make you well.
I accept and cherish your love.
I am not bad and I haven’t done anything wrong.
2. I am not bad because I couldn’t fix my _____________(mother, father, sister, brother
etc.) and I am not bad because I can’t fix ________________ (my current agency
target).
3. I am not selfish when I think of myself or act on my own behalf. I have a right to
my own body and body-voice, my own volition, and to know what I think and
want and to say so.
4. I have a right to my own internal life, thoughts, hopes and dreams, and I am not
bad if I don’t tell anyone about them.
5. When I take responsibility for the wellbeing of others I invade and cripple them,
I undermine those I try to fix as well as myself.
6. Agency is just a habit that I no longer have to continue.
7. I will not abandon myself when I most need my own support.
8. I don’t have power over, control of, or responsibility for other people’s lives. I
was taught I had these powers and this is a lie I now tell myself.
9. I need not depend on others nor wait for them in order to do my life.
10. This is not a crisis, only my agency habit makes me think so.
11. I have a right to feel good about myself without feeling narcissistic or grandiose. 12. I have a right to my own soul, my own destiny, my own religious or spiritual
beliefs even if others disagree.
13. I know in my body the difference between an act of caring and an act of agency. 14. The end of agency is not the end of love; it is the beginning.